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My Mirena Birth Control Story

In honor of Mental Health Awareness month, I’ve decided to share my Mirena IUD experience. I’ve had the mirena IUD twice. The first time, I had it for a few month. There was a little discomfort when it first went in and I had some cramping but nothing major. The only problem I had with it was it felt like it was pulling when I did heavy exercise. My husband deployed a few months after I got it so I decided to have it removed because I had reservations about it because of things I read and I didn’t need birth control for 9 months. Removal was easy and was over in 2 seconds. I took ibuprofen before removal so there was no pain except for the initial tug, which was over in a second.

When my husband returned from deployment, I decided to give mirena another try. At first it was fine. My periods were nothing more than a day or two of spotting and I forgot it was there. I had occasional cramps but nothing too serious. After having mirena for a few months, I went into a deep chronic depression and even had suicidal ideations. At the time, I just thought I was going through a really rough patch in life even though things weren’t that bad. Months went on and I was treated with antidepressants and anxiety medication as well as talk therapy. The suicidial thoughts were no longer there but I was still very sad. Not only was I sad but I just thought I was going crazy. I was anxious, paranoid, and more.

Shortly after the depression came, I started having unbearable pelvic cramps. I mean they almost felt like contractions. After dealing with the cramps for awhile and having the mirena checked to make sure it hadn’t moved(it had not moved), I decided the have the mirena removed. As the days went by after the removal, I started feeling better day by day. I could not believe how much better I felt. It’s like my body was singing “Oh Happy Day” because I had rid it of the little foreign normal invader. After the complete turn around I made after having mirena removed, I think it is safe to say that mirena worsened or heightened my depression and anxiety. 

I am currently detoxing my body of those horrible hormones and praying the old fashion period tracking method can keep the babies away until we can figure out another nonhormonal method that works for us. I am not a doctor nor am I giving medical advice. I’m just sharing my experience and I think that if you are having depression while on mirena, you should consider mirena as a contributor. There are many stories out there like mine and I’m sharing mine for Awareness. 

-LR


I am wearing green eyeshadow for Mental Health Awareness, especially depression. 

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Family, Kids, Travel, Uncategorized

Carolina Beach

My family and I had a great time at Carolina Beach. We were looking for somewhere where we could park our car and just relax on the beach without having to drive anywhere. We stayed at the Hampton Inn Carolina Beach Oceanfront Hotel, where we had an ocean view room. They had a nice pool on the boardwalk and breakfast was included.  There was a Tiki Bar conveniently located at the pool as well. There was a carnival right outside of the hotel and lots of restaurants and shops. We had a great dinner at Havana’s Fresh Island Seafood. They had the best Sangria I’ve ever had and the food was great and they gave you lots of it. Their service was great as well. While we were walking back to our hotel after dinner, we noticed this long never ending line coming from a boardwalk donut shop. I don’t remember the exact name of the restaurant but those donuts had to be good because that line was sooo long. Although we missed out on the donuts, we did enjoy ice cream from a local ice cream and fudge shop right outside of our hotel. My toddlers (2 & 3) enjoyed the beach. They played in the water and built sand castles. The beach wasn’t crowded so they had plenty of room to play. We had fun at Carolina Beach and we will be returning again soon, so if you’re in the area, keep them in mind! You’ll have a great time! 

-LR

Inspiration, Uncategorized

If You Live By Thier Praises You’ll Die By Their Criticisms

So much has happened to help me realize that people’s opinions of you are none of your business and in reality irrelevant. I mean the same people who called Jesus “Hosana Hosana” were the exact same ones yelling “CRUCIFY HIM”! Think about it. 

The most valuable lesson I have learned during this season of my life is that I am not what I have gone through. Yes I’ve dealt with depression (and I really believe my choice of birth control had A LOT to do with that or at least amplified it) and I had a suicidal ideation but that is not who I am and will not accept that label. That is just an experience I had in life. The same with anything any of us go through. Don’t let anyone label you and definitely do not label yourself because what you believe is what you become or who you are (Proverbs 27:3). 

I have had 2 instances of “church hurt” in my life and the last one was pretty recent and it has turned me and my spouse away from church. We still go but we aren’t as active as we once were and to be honest, I don’t like the term “church” hurt because the “church”, God’s bride, did not hurt us, it was the leaders and people inside of the church. It was being used up to the last drop but not being appreciated, but again from that season it was a lesson of don’t live by people’s praises because you’ll die from their criticisms. People will disappoint you because they are just people. Imperfect beings living in an imperfect world and most likely they have their own interest at heart and in the forefront of their minds and that’s ok because so do I, and as soon as we learn to not take offense to everything so easily as instructed in the word of God and to quickly forgive, let go, and move forward the better off we will be. 

So in this season of life, I’m carrying all of the learned lesson with an open mind, open heart, and despite of what it looks like, what it seems like, opinions, etc I am going to push on and walk on my truth, my calling, and love without failure because love never fails. 

Thought: I make it a point to give at least one stranger a compliment once a day because you never know how it may lift someone’s spirit and make their day 🙂.

-LR

Food, Product Reviews, Travel, Uncategorized

True Food Kitchen

This past weekend, my family and I stayed in Fairfax, VA. My husband had an event to attend and we couldn’t find a sitter so the kids and I decided to come along for the ride and relax in the hotel room while daddy was at his event and make a mini family vacay out of the weekend. My husband took me to True Food Kitchen the next morning for brunch. He had visited True Food with his friends a few weekends prior and af first I was skeptical because when I walked in, all I smelled was the aroma of fresh green juice, and being a plus size country girl from the south, all I wanted was some bacon and biscuits. 

True Food focuses on all natural whole food ingredients and everything is made from scratch. My kids enjoyed their pizza and fresh pressed juices and my husband and I enjoyed our dishes as well. I had 2 organic eggs with sweet potato hash and chicken sausage. It was so good that I was craving it this morning when I woke up. I also enjoyed my pomegranate mimosa and coffee. I definitely look forward to visiting this restaurant again and replicating some of their dishes at home. If you are near True Foods Kitchen, you should be open and give it a try. They won’t disappoint. 

-LR

Inspiration, Uncategorized

Serenity

The Serenity Prayer is a prayer that asks for God to grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. At some point in my life, I decided to accept the thoughts in my head because they could not and would not change. The thoughts of worthlessness, low self-esteem, not being good enough, damaged goods, and I could go on. No matter how much I said my “I AM’s” or was told how adored I was by my husband and children, those thoughts could not go away. Then there were times I would be really really sad and uninterested in my normal activities and routine. I would just sit in my house in the dark with my pajamas on all day and snack. Sometimes, I just wanted to stay in bed all day and just eat, and then there were times when I don’t want to eat at all. There were also times when I just wanted to sit and stare in space or times when I didn’t want to be bothered with anyone at all. That includes my immediate family.

I can remember feeling this way since my senior year in high school but I always snapped out of it after a few weeks and didn’t think much of it until a couple of months ago. A couple of months ago, I separated myself from my family by barricading myself in a room, and attempted to hurt myself with glass from a broken mirror. I call it a suicidal gesture instead of attempt because after I broke the mirror and had the glass in my hand, I thought about my children and how they needed their mother and that thought alone made me hesitate. During my hesitation, my husband broke into the room I was barricaded in, took the glass out of my hand, and took me to get help. Initially I was upset, but now I am so glad that he saved my life. He saved my life by getting me help.

Talk therapy (counseling) and medicine that helps with hormonal imbalance (as needed) has been great for me. Just talking about it alone has been very helpful. Just knowing that I am not crazy and that there was something wrong gave me hope. I have been diagnosed with depression as well as anxiety. I’ve known I’ve had anxiety for years but actual chronic depression was news to me. Depression is often described as being really sad but that’s not the case. Yes you are sad but you’re empty, not interested in normal activities, low energy, hopeless, feeling broken, and more. Most people, especially in the African-American community, think that mental disorders don’t exist and you need to just pray and have more faith, but I have prayed constantly and my faith is there along with these good doctors and professionals that God has put here on his green Earth. There is no shame in getting help, there is no shame in expressing that you need help, and there is no shame in sharing your story like I am choosing to do today. I pray that my story can help someone who is going through something similar. God has granted me serenity and courage to change, beat this thing, and put it behind me once and for all. Look for my husband to share his experience with supporting a spouse dealing with depression in his corner soon because depression can take a toll on a marriage if it is not understood. The disease is the enemy and not the spouse. Until next time God bless.

-LR

What’s to come: More MAKEUP reviews!

Makeup, Product Reviews, Uncategorized

Kat Von D Lock-It Foundation

Dear Kat Von D Lock-It Foundation, where have you been all my life? I have tried foundation after foundation after foundation and I have finally found my perfect match! Kat Von D Lock-It Foundation is my perfect fit! This formula is light weight and has guaranteed full coverage. There isn’t even a need to color correct. That’s just how full the coverage is. It also comes in a variety of shades. Most foundations, I have to buy two and mix them together to get my perfect shade but Kat Von D had just the shade I needed. My grade on this foundation is A+. This foundation can be found for $35 from the Kat Von D website or Sephora. Here I am below wearing only Kat Von D Lock-It Foundation (Shade 74 Deep), lipstick, brow wiz, and mascara!

P.S. Excuse the stroller in the back! I am a full-time wife and mom, part-time blogger, and full-time MUE!

-LR

Fashion, Product Reviews, Uncategorized

YOUnique Glam Accessories

I have a $5 accessory habit and I’m not ashamed of it! I LOVE Paparazzi Accessories because they are super stylish and where else can you get quality jewelry for only $5? Necklaces come with a matching pair of earrings and they even have accessories for men and children! All Paparazzi products are lead and nickel free as well, so that is a plus. Paparazzi accessories are only available through your Paparazzi Consultant. You don’t have one? That’s okay. I guess I can be generous and share mine. The stylish beauty in the featured photo above, Shannon, is a Paparazzi Consultant and you can purchase from her directly from her personal store, YOUniqueGlam listed here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/YouNiqueGlamAccessories/ or you can purchase directly from her website listed here: http://www.youniqueglamaccessories.com/ 


 -LR

Makeup, Product Reviews, Uncategorized

Too Faced Natural Love Palette

I have literally waited for this palette for over two weeks but now that I have it, it was definitely worth the wait. This palette is so beautiful and goes on like silk. It’s full of natural colors and is great for everyday and bridal looks. If you have been contemplating purchasing it, contemplate no more and add it to your collection! You won’t be sorry! Checkout the look I created with it below! 

-LR

P.S. I used the Too Faced Love Light Prismatic Highlighter with this look as well. 

Family, Inspiration, Kids, Makeup, Uncategorized

Smile! She is Watching

My two year old knows that my makeup is off limits but she always finds herself playing it when she thinks no one is watching. One day, without her knowing, I watched as she climbed up onto my vanity chair and began to apply the excess makeup left on my brushes. She knew exactly what brush went where and what to do with it. She even knew almost exactly where to put the eyelashes on her face. Right there in that moment, I realized that my baby is watching me and she will mimic every single thing that I do; therefore, it is important for me to be an example for her in every aspect of my life because the woman I am will guide the woman she becomes. 

I will smile more, laugh more, sing more, praise more, read more, dance more, make healthier choices, and so much more because the woman I envision her to be is who I have to become. Smile mom, because she is watching. “Do as I say and not as I do” is a quote that is so untrue because they will do exactly as you do. Be an example. Be a leader because our children are our future. The change we want to see begins in us. Be great because they are watching.

-LR

Makeup, Uncategorized

Too Faced Love Light Prismatic Highlighter

Before I share my thoughts on this highlighter, I would unfortunately like to say that I will not be purchasing anything directly from Too Faced ever again. I ordered the eyeshadow palette as well as new matte lipsticks from this collection on the day it came out and have yet to receive it two weeks later. It just shipped yesterday. I could have waited and ordered it from Ulta or Sephora and gotten it much faster, which is what I will be doing from now on; however, they did send me my highlighter, which was ordered a day after I ordered my other items because the rose gold was out of stock at that moment. Anywho I have received my rose gold love light prismatic highlighter and I like it. I have not worn it on my face but the swatch I made on my hand was pretty and it was silky and smooth. I look forward to wearing it! What I love the most about this highlight is the beautiful packaging! It is not my favorite but it won’t just be sitting in my stash collecting dust if you know what I mean.

-LR